Monday, August 20, 2007

Defining Friendship

DEFINING FRIENSHIP

"Friendship is a term used to denote co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more humans. This article focuses on the notion specific to interpersonal relationships. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them. Value that is found in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating on a consistent basis:

- Friendship. (2007, August 19). In Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia. Retrieved 16:12, August 19, 2007, from http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Friendship&oldid=152143633

This brings me to my topic for today, friendship.

so how do we measure friendship?
By using a ruler, depending on how long you've known someone or by how much love and loyalty ya'll share? The dirty thing about friendship is, we are often left unaware of certain circumstances regarding ourselves which we later find out from other sources. Is that friendship? As you know, you can be the longest known friend, but that does not mean you are the best of best friends, for who knows how disloyal one can be towards another party unless you know the person inside out. But who does?

I've seen all sorts of friendships in my life. The ones who really like your company, those whose anger arises when support is given, those who like you for image purposes, those who want to learn from you, and those who just wanna be you. Well... a little backstabbing and gossiping here and there for a little fun.... hypocrite, you might think.... but it does happen. Even in our society today, and how do we define Friendship? a mutual understanding which "exhibit loyalty towards each other". Where is the loyalty? isit friends or peers we are talking about? Peers of course, the people who just can't be bothered with you. I am writing this coz i was just thinking of it, not targeted to anyone.

So what do we do in situations like that? ignore them... not... we have to build that love and loyalty with each other. With that, one can really have true friendship. That is how we define friendships. Not from knowing the person very long or knowing his height or weight, but knowing the person so well that you will know how much he/she really loves you back. Difficult, isn't it?

Posted by Alexander Thaddeus Kow at 8/20/2007 12:11:00 am